I’ve just finished teaching a child birthing class and I’m getting a phone call. Hello? What? You’d like me to join you at the birth of your baby? WOW! I am honored. This is a call I received from a couple who have just left my office after wrapping up their five classes – now fully ready to receive their baby in love and gentleness. Attending births is not what I usually do with my families from class. I share tools and philosophies for parents to welcome their new little one into this world calmly, gently and comfortably.
I’ve just finished teaching a childbirthing class and I’m getting a phone call. Hello? What? You’d like me to join you at the birth of your baby? WOW! I am honored. This is a call I received from a couple who have just left my office after wrapping up their five classes – now fully ready to receive their baby in love and gentleness. Attending births is not what I usually do with my families from class. I share tools and philosophies for parents to welcome their new little one into this world calmly, gently and comfortably.
Ok, so at this point you might be thinking…..wait a minute, calm, gentle and comfortable birthing? This is not usually what you think of when contemplating childbirth. Well, the times they are a changin’.
I personally experienced peaceful birthings for both of my daughters with the support of my husband and a wonderful birthing team. I was so inspired by these experiences, I am now teaching it to others. I feel it is my duty, my good fortune to pass it on. It is time that we all share in this movement of gently birthing our children and giving them a sense of calm and peace right from the beginning. It is the greatest gift we can give our children and our world. Maria Montessori, the founder of Montessori education, called children the ‘absorbent ones’. Science is proving that babies in the womb can sense and feel, absorb if you will, their environment. In this day and age some of us are more sensitive and gentle with our new cars than we are our bodies. Only because we haven’t been shown the way.
How do we foster peaceful birthing? What do we do with all the pre-conceived thoughts that childbirth needs to be hard, arduous and full of discomfort? Simple – birth in the absence of fear……I know this is a bold statement. But never was there a better time to birth a child than now. The medical advancements are incredible, and the advancements in our consciousness are incredible as well. Ageless techniques of mindfulness and relaxation are pouring into the mainstream. Dr. Michel Odent, advocate of gentle birthing and author of 11 books including Trust Your Body!Trust Your Baby!, points out, “One cannot help a physiological process. The point is not to hinder it.” This is the bottom line. Get out of the way of your birthing process and it will flow. This belief is contrary to the way a lot of us were shown growing up. Family and friends, TV shows and movies unfortunately portray birthing too much of the time as a fearful, pain-filled event. This is why it is essential to start the un-learning process when we become pregnant – or better yet, even before conception. Pregnancy is not an event to be scheduled, it is a process to be honored and humbled by. This is literally where the next generation begins their journey of giving to this planet.
Women using their own innate abilities to birth is not a new concept. It is merely one that has been forgotten and lost through the years. Hippocrates, the ‘father of medicine’ believed that nature is the greatest physician and it’s best when allowed to work without intervention. Birth is a beautiful, natural function of a woman’s body.
Now is the time to take a stand to bring birthing back into the hands of parents, where it truly belongs. Of course we need a support staff to help us in this process, but the foundation is set by Mommy and Daddy. Find joy in this responsibility. Find liberation in this way of thinking. Un-learn what we think we know about birth. Pablo Casals said, “The child must know that he is a miracle, that since the beginning of the world there hasn’t been, and until the end of the world there will not be, another child like him.” Let’s join together to protect this miracle, to ensure the well being of our children, and be an advocate for their happiness. Let’s make a stand for Peaceful Birthing. Are you in?
Janice Rex-Weaver, wife and mother of 2 is passionate about supporting and educating expectant families about birth choices. Having used HypnoBirthing for both of her homebirths, she was inspired after her calm – unplanned unassisted birth of her 2nd daughter to achieve HypnoBirthing certification to teach the method to others and has been doing that since 2006. Currently joining forces with 2 other professional women to open a freestanding birth and famly wellness center in Metro Detroit. www.YourPeacefulBirthing.com